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It never ceases to amaze me about the things journalists come up with in the tabloids let alone the lengths families go to to  save their reputation and that of their loved one who has acted inappropriately.

Matthew Newton, son of Bert Newton – Australian icon. 

Latest article if you are not familiar with the reporting: http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2010/08/30/2996958.htm

Let’s do a quick summary of Matthew’s father shall we?

Bert Newton – alcoholic, psychiatric ward stay, Electroconvulsive Therapy, caught drink driving on numerous occasions, lost licence, well-known assertion Bert assaults Patti (wife) during drunken rages.

Matthew Newton – Ice and Marijuana (and the like) addict, assaults first girlfriend, quashed case, assaults second girlfriend, psychiatric ward, mental illness, suicide watch.

I’m going to be very blunt here and say that it is blatantly obvious to me that Bert never learnt from his family of origin how to adequately deal with life’s problems therefore he turned to the bottle to suppress his emotions which subsequently ignited his internal rage that he took out on his wife using violence.

Matthew comes into the picture and doesn’t learn a healthy way of dealing with his problems from the male role model in his life (his God, his father). He learns by example to suppress not express his feelings and problems and turns to drugs and alcohol to kill his internal pain. He too (under the influence) takes out his internal rage on the women in his life.

Matthew may have a mental illness but I can bet your bottom dollar it was ignited by his drug use. To blame his actions on his illness is what makes society think all mentally ill people are dangerous. This type of reporting only serves to fuel public stigma, not reduce it.

We see and experience it all so often yet the tabloids continue to gloss over this family like they are “perfect” and have a poor mentally ill child.  When will the world realise that children are products of their upbringing?

Sure, Matthew’s an adult but so am I! We are of similar age. Had I have known back then what I know now I would have literally dived into Alanon a long time ago. There are people in their 50’s and 60’s who still don’t understand why their life has always been “up the creek”.

I feel for Matthew and hope that he finds the strength to get into and continue in a 12 Step recovery program like Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous to help him deal with his demons for his failure to do so will spread the dysfunction down the Newton line. 

I have made an oath with myself that my family’s dysfunction stops at me.

Where does yours stop?

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